Studies show that a growing number of women (88%) are entering pregnancy with a stressor that no one talks about—the very real fear of what pregnancy and motherhood will do to their bodies and their self-esteem.

Claire Mysko and Magali Amadeï know firsthand. Magali was one of the first models to go public with her bulimia struggle, and Claire is a renowned body image expert who served as the director of the American Anorexia Bulimia Association. Together they formed Inside Beauty, an outreach program to give women a healthy beauty reality check. From working with supermodels to soccer moms, they realized the void of information that prepares women for how pregnancy and ensuing motherhood will affect their self-esteem, body image, sexuality, and beauty routines.

While some may scoff that such superficial concerns as stretch marks and scars pale in comparison to the miracle of birth, there are serious consequences when women don't confront their beauty and body issues before taking the plunge into motherhood. Insecurities that go unaddressed can make for unhappy moms, directly impacting how women feel about themselves, and their ability to bond with their babies and husbands.

Magali and Claire reveal the most prevalent challenges and insecurities most women face—as well as their own. Will women be forced to permanently incorporate elastic waistbands into their wardrobes? How can women stop the barrage of strangers from rubbing their pregnant bellies? What do the stars do to camouflage sagging skin? And is foreplay actually possible while you're lactating? With stories and tips from other moms (including celebrities), the authors will help any woman find her own "beauty-baby balance," offering expert advice to make her feel her best--mind, body, and spirit. These authors have the answers—in the expert, yet compassionate, voice that every woman needs to hear.

National Media Connections/Media Genic Authors/Media-Friendly Topics: Claire and Magali have appeared together on shows including 20/20, CBS This Morning, and Fox News Channel. Their collaboration has been covered by Good Morning America, Entertainment Tonight, Glamour, Redbook, Self, Fitness, YM, and USA Today.

Incredible Platform: Claire Mysko has worked as the director of the American Anorexia Bulimia Association and the assistant director of communications at Girls Incorporated, an organization which reaches 800,000 girls and young women each year. They are members of the Council of Fashion Designers Health Initiative, and are closely connected to organizations and campaigns, including The Dove Campaign for Real Beauty, Step Up Women's Network, The Camille Cosby Girls Program, and WOMEN UNLIMITED.

Web Buzz: The authors created two popular web destinations (insidebeauty.org and 5resolutions.blogspot.com), which reach a combined average of 4,000 visitors eahc month. Their blog posts about the influence of the Celebrity Bump Watch and the pressures on mothers to slim down have been featured on BlogHer (10 million women a month), Jezebel.com (1.3 million monthly visitors), Babble.com (1,25 million a month), and Shine, Yahoo's blog for women.

Introduction

Let's get something out of the way right now. This book will not tell you how to get your prebaby body back. But don't stop reading yet. Instead, consider if you can relate to any of the following scenarios: A group of female colleagues meet for lunch. When the half-eaten grilled chicken salads are cleared from the table, they agonize over which dessert to share. A fudge brownie plus three spoons adds up to fifteen minutes of discussion about who thinks she's carrying a little extra weight these days and who can't believe she's being so 'bad' by indulging. In a shop downtown, one friend gives another a pep talk through a dressing-room door, offering heartfelt reassurances that it's the fluorescent lights—not her thighs—that are the problem. On the other side of town, a pregnant woman sits in the waiting room of her obstetrician's office. Surrounded by tabloid magazines and pamphlets for Botox, she tries to steel herself for the moment she's been dreading all week: stepping on the scale.

As women, we are well-schooled in the language of weight loss and weight gain. Turn on your TV and count the minutes until you see a diet-related commercial. Log on to Facebook and you might find yourself staring at a muffin top ad or a quiz to determine if you are a certifiable lard ass. There is, to put it simply, a lot of noise when it comes to the topic of slenderizing our bodies—and the volume gets louder once you're expecting a baby and then adjusting to life as a new mom.

After more than a decade of work as beauty activists, we came to a profound realization: Pregnancy and new motherhood are the times when women go through the most insecurity-inducing body changes and when we have the least support to deal with those changes. By support we don't mean the onslaught of articles that reveal which new mom celebrities fit back in their bikinis in five minutes by 'just eating healthy,' or the 'mommy makeover' specials that are increasingly prevalent on plastic surgeons' Web sites. Neither of these are on our list of self-esteem boosters.

At the other end of the spectrum are the Bad Mommy Police, who will make women feel incredibly selfish for giving a minute's thought to how we look when we should be showering every ounce of our attention onto our new bundles of joy. Don't worry: There is a middle ground—and we will help you find yours, if you are pregnant, considering getting pregnant, or are home with baby.

We first met when Claire was the director of an eating disorders organization, a position she took after finally giving up her dangerous quest to be model-thin. Magali was an internationally renowned model who wanted to reveal the truths she knew about the fashion industry—the rampant retouching, the insane pressures on insanely young models, the difference between the pretty fantasies on those glossy magazine covers and the ugly realities of her real-life eating disorder. We teamed up with the goal of educating and raising awareness. However, as we traveled around the country talking to women, we quickly learned that the main event was not the stories we were sharing, but the stories other women shared with us. Concerned women would fling their hands up in the air and ask what they could say to their friends who weren't eating enough. Others lined up to tell us how exasperated they felt after years of yo-yo dieting, or to share their secret behavior that 'wasn't an eating disorder' but something else—something they hadn't confessed to anyone until that day. We saw the shame as women hesitated, and then continued with their stories. We recognized that shame because we'd felt it ourselves.

Magali got pregnant in 2005 and Claire got married in 2006. Motherhood was no longer some distant role we might someday step into, but something very real. We talked about how strange it was to suddenly find the details of Magali's pregnancy weight gain an acceptable topic of daily discussion at business lunches and among friends, especially after all the years she'd invested in shifting her focus away from that number on the scale. We took notice of what other pregnant women and new mothers were talking about—and what they weren't. There was plenty of chatter about how everyone wanted to lose their baby weight and not lose themselves in motherhood, but how were women really coping with those pressures? There were shelves filled with books about work-life balance and op-ed pages devoted to 'mommy wars' and 'opting out.' Where was the thoughtful exploration of how pregnancy and motherhood changes a woman's relationship to her body and her sense of beauty and style? Tabloid baby bump-watch covers just weren't cutting it for us.

We asked real women—over four hundred of them—about their biggest body concerns related to pregnancy and motherhood. We heard from first-time mothers, veteran moms, women who don't have children yet, and pregnant women who described themselves as everything from 'sexy' to 'heffalump.' We also managed to track down some husbands and partners who were willing to give us the scoop on what they think about the expanding bellies, raging hormones, and what sex is like after baby arrives.

The women we interviewed made us crack up, cry, and believe with ever more conviction that when we women are honest with ourselves and with each other, we are unstoppable.

We want women to feel less alone. We want mothers and mothers-to-be to know that worrying about your appearance doesn't make you selfish or unfit for parenting. It's what you choose to do about those concerns that matters the most. For us, staying silent and waiting to see what happens are never options. We're also not fans of the everything-will-be-okay-as-long-as-I-can-get-back-into-my-skinny-jeans approach. So while we will not be offering the secrets to getting your prebaby body back, this book will serve up some practical tips on how to love and respect your body through the amazing, awe-inspiring, and, yes, sometimes downright shocking changes of pregnancy and motherhood. We'll tell you all about those changes and you'll hear from women who have lived through them. We will provide real-life solutions for women who care about their looks and their babies, but are not going to be working out for two hours a day anytime soon (or ever). We'll offer advice for those who have struggled to accept their bodies, only to face the absolute certainty of weight gain in pregnancy and the complete uncertainty of how they'll cope with it. We'll give you the uncensored truth about everything from milky boobs to prebaby bikini waxes. Celebrities, style, beauty, fitness, and body-image experts will all weigh in; and we'll throw our two cents into the mix as well.

From the 'What am I getting myself into?' side of things is Claire, who has a major case of baby fever and plans to do something about it soon. In the 'been there, survived that' category is Magali, who is understanding more and more each day how the reflection she sees of herself shapes the reflection her daughter sees when she looks in the mirror.

We won't sugarcoat this for you. The stakes are much higher when you bring kids into the picture. Of course, you won't always feel like a beautiful, glowing goddess—and that's okay. But even after one of those 'ugly' days, every woman deserves to go to sleep believing deeply and implicitly in her own beauty. Our children need us to believe in our beauty. Each morning you wake up feeling stronger and more confident, you will be better prepared to help your daughters and sons find their strength and confidence.

©2009. Claire Mysko, Magali Amadeï. All rights reserved. Reprinted from Does This Pregnancy Make Me Look Fat?. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system or transmitted in any form or by any means, without the written permission of the publisher. Publisher: Health Communications, Inc., 3201 SW 15th Street, Deerfield Beach, FL 33442